Well, I just don’t know where to start. It all seems a little strange and odd and I’m going to have a darn good pop at explaining why (for the benefit of my reader or three :-)). Firstly, the girls get a lot of attention and not all of it is very nice. I can’t help but think that a large chunk of the blokes are just “fishing” for sex rather than a relationship. This means that as a “sincere customer” (if I can be allowed to describe myself that way) people seem to pay attention and think “Hmmm, is this guy for real?”. At least I can string a sentence together, and didn’t lie one little bit in my profile, so needless to say I’m getting some attention: and quite a lot of it trying to work out if there is something sneaky about me that I’ve not accidentally revealed yet (no, girls, there isn’t).
Anyway, it’s at this point in the story where I get all confused.
Call me old fashioned, but I’m used to flirting with and chatting up one woman at a time. If I went to a bar and simultaneously tried to start a relationship with ten girls at once, how long would it be until one of them slapped me? 1 second? 10 seconds? Would I be beaten senseless? I’m used to directing my attention towards one person at a time and here I find myself dealing with lots of people at once and feeling guilty about it. Now that I’ve found someone to have a date with, I feel like the right thing to do is to put everyone else in a “holding pattern” until I know where this one is going. Oh, and I don’t mean ignoring people, I just mean talking with them rather than turning the flirt-o-meter right up to its 11 setting.
I realise, however, that if I do this one-at-a-time then I’m going to be Internet Dating for an awful long time. Maybe this is why speed dating doesn’t appeal to me, it’s the parallelism that seems weird – flirting with lots of people at once and none of them knowing who else you’re flirting with or what you’re saying. It feels like a multi-affair without the sex. So, yet again, I find myself wishing I could just lighten up and work with it rather than against it.
Still, time is one thing that I do have along with at least some dignity (for the time being, anyway…)
Anyway, date-night tonight. I’d better attempt to make myself resemble a human being: and perhaps just one small whisky before I go out to calm the nerves *shakes nervously*
karalina said,
February 17, 2007 @ 7:16 pm
Have a great time on your date tonight. You will let us know how it went, I assume?
I only did the internet dating thing once. I didn’t find love out of it, but it was a good way to put myself ‘out there’.
“So, yet again, I find myself wishing I could just lighten up and work with it rather than against it.
Isn’t there a happy medium?